Things People with Endometriosis Do that Should Be Forgiven

Things People with Endometriosis Do that Should Be Forgiven

Dachshunds & Duvets – a column by Jessie Madrigal-Fletcher

Lately, I’ve been struggling. It’s probably more to do with this endless winter and less with endometriosis, but when I’m like this, it helps to write something upbeat. So here’s some humor, with a side of endometriosis realness.

These are some of the things people with endometriosis do that you should forgive:

Occasional messiness

I love cleanliness and order. I can have tons of energy and sheer determination when it comes to sorting out my wardrobe. But after a short while of hard work, my energy levels plummet, and piles of clothes surround me. Cue me lying on the bed, facedown, pile of clothes unsorted. This drives my partner crazy. Speaking with a fellow endometriosis sufferer last week, she told me about the chores that end up half-done when her “batteries run out”: laundry, framing pictures, vacuuming, the list goes on.

A lovable level of grumpiness

Sometimes the migraines I get from endometriosis make me grumpy. Other times, sheer exhaustion means I’m unable to open my eyes completely when talking to others, and I look drunk. Most times, it’s just some sort of pain that won’t go away: my left ovary, my hip, my leg. All I want to do is curl under a duvet and eat cake. Maybe let me have it?

Our intriguing (and changing) food choices

Yes, I’m the type of endometriosis sufferer who will scan the menu for gluten-free choices, yet stuff my face with cookie dough ice cream without considering its inflammatory ingredients. Some of my dietary choices are not fun, but these are rules I have to abide by to avoid bending over in pain. Also, don’t hate me if I insist on going somewhere with other vegetarian options apart from pumpkin risotto.

We can be picky regarding topics of conversation

Because this illness has such a big impact on my life, few people ask me about anything else. Barely anyone asks me about my job, my creative writing, or my relationship status with Tom Hardy. Truthfully, most of the time I don’t want to talk about endometriosis. It impacts parts of my life that are too private to talk about, and it never goes away. I’m so over it.

Yes, endometriosis patients can be difficult. We are sometimes teary and are mostly seen heading to bed clutching a hot water bottle. However, deep down, we like to believe we are like everyone else. We want to enjoy life, we want to laugh out loud with our loved ones, and (maybe only sometimes) be cuddled. Most importantly, we are more than our illness.


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  1. Christie says:

    Omg!..I’m both laughing and crying because I feel like I could have written every single word you put down!It’s usually always my LEFT ovary too,I also enjoy creative writing(it’s just that NO ONE seems to remember lol)I am also a vegetarian,and I too have a secret relationship with Tom Hardy!(that no one seems to remember..haha lol)
    But on a serious note though, it sucks because you’re right- it doesn’t go away and I usually do look half drunk and can’t get outta bed..but I’m happy you put a funny and super relatable twist on the article. And I really thank you and appreciate it! We will keep fighting like we do! Best of luck to you and all my other Endo sisters! Stay strong and positive.(I know it’s waaay easier said than done).We will eventually find a cure..cuz we have to.

    • oh Christie, your comment has made my day. May our left ovaries go easy on us, Tom call us more often – seriously, this guy and his increasingly successful career, always busy-busy 😛 and have a looooovely weekend. From a fellow endo-sister to another, HUGE hug

  2. Jo says:

    Even after a total hysterectomy, I can still relate to every word, especially the migraines and the closet-sorting! I can’t even remember the number of times I’ve started sorting my clothes and my batteries ran out. And the topics of conversation–I am probably even more over it than you at this point, and I don’t want to talk about endo anymore, but it’s still very much a part of my life.

  3. Princessbobbie says:

    Every word of this is truth, thank god someone gets that I’m not just “lazy” and “should really see a doctor about that”. To top it off I have two teenaged boys in baseball and I work in a busy surgery office. My boyfriend is currently out picking out something for me because I didn’t have it in me to leave the house again.

  4. Christy mckie says:

    Another Christy here, and my left ovary is the pain of my life Too! Along with head aches and chronic back pain that keeps me awake at night (every night ) ? unfortunately for me, my friends, family , partner, all seem to forget why I’m complaining of a head ache, clutching me belly, cry “for no reason”, feel extremely exhausted ( even though I’ve also been up most of the night) , and “grumpy”! I get on with life because I have to but not without all these above things. And no one really understands, it’s like it doesn’t exist because no one can see it. Not much different from depression, which also plays a part for me. Perhaps they don’t understand it, why would they?! Mine very much gets overlooked and it upsets me as no one knows the real struggle, daily,for me . Thank you for posting, it helps me remember I’m not alone .

    • you are definitively not alone Christy…. so many women would get you! There’s so many of us trying to appear “normal” and keeping it together on a daily basis. I won’t get started on the rubbish day I’ve had today, but my energy levels are really trying to ruin my existence. It’s a daily struggle, and really, we are superhuman to be able to put up with what we do. We do it so well that everyone else forgets we have something biological that makes everything harder. Massive hug to you xxx

  5. MAWilson says:

    Jessie, perhaps we are too good at carrying on as normal (?) More of we sufferers need to be loud and sweary when in pain. I had fibroids, ovarian cysts, and endometriosis all over the bleeding place. These stay with you even after a total hysterectomy, as does the distended belly. The operation saved my sanity. Be as loud as you can be, and may better days be with us all.

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